What a difference 4 years can make.
On April 3rd, 2006 my life was irrevocably changed. Twas that day what I now call “previous life” ended and the new life began. To lose the euphemisms, that was the day I was told I was getting divorced. I still remember that fateful day like it was yesterday. I’m sure part of that day will always be with me. Especially since we are all the sum of our experiences. I am no different. Man, at the time, it suuuuucked.
The thing is, just about every single part of my life is so much better now. When before I was surviving, now I would say I’m thriving. I love my wife. I love my house. I love my dog. I love my job. If you were to ask me what I had to complain about, I’d have to think about it long and hard, then I would come up with some weak-ass complaint about my garage door opener not working very well. Seriously. I don’t think I could be more content in life than I am now. Jess and I are so compatible and are looking forward to life’s changes together. It is fantastic.
With all that being the case, I really can’t hold a grudge any more. Granted, I haven’t seen the ex since February ’07, which still amazes me since Boise is NOT that big of a place. To be perfectly honest, she did me a gigantic favor. At this point, my only regrets are all of the possessions that “didn’t make the cut”, but even those at this point are pretty minor and have been replaced.
It’s a good feeling to be completely comfortable if another bump-in-to was to happen. I wouldn’t freak out. I’m quite certain that it wouldn’t ruin my day. I’d be willing to bet that I would be able to even have a conversation were she open to such a thing.
Basically the point of this post is the following: no matter how bad you think a certain situation is, things will end up better than you expect. I have always been an optimist and 4 years ago was a real test of that. But I came out way stronger, smarter and happier on the back end.
I hope she has even a fraction of the happiness I have now.
Onward and upward.